Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts

Thursday, July 2, 2015

The Faith of "Mother Emmanuel"

My “home” state of South Carolina has been in the news lately. I use quotation marks around home for a good reason. Although I am South Carolina born, on a July morning in the hot and humid city of Columbia, only eight weeks later my mother, brother, and I made our way north to our new home in New Jersey. My South Carolina born and raised father had already begun work in his new job with a corporation based in Manhattan. He never brought his family back. Aside from our daughter’s college stay, our relocation to South Carolina barely five years ago in order for me to become pastor of Seneca Presbyterian Church represents the only sojourn of my immediate family in the Palmetto state since that departure. Yet the fascination of late with my home state of South Carolina fascinates me.
                Growing up far away from the deep south, yet with southern roots, South Carolina was the ancestral home for my father’s family, our Myrtle Beach vacation destination every August, the source of some of the world’s best music, and producer of the world’s finest peaches, which by the way are just now coming into season. God is good!
                Yet up until about two weeks ago, the world saw South Carolina as the birthplace of the confederacy and home to those who celebrate white supremacy. That impression was painfully and sorrowfully captured in the person of Dylann Roof as he took the lives of the nine children of God who welcomed him into their church sanctuary as they were gathered around the Word. He thought his act of evil would ignite a racial war, divide a nation, and empower racial bigotry. Instead, it brought the races together and likely will bring down what has become the symbol of hate that seemed to motivate his actions. Dylann thought the world worked one way; God’s people showed him another way.
                How did everything change so rapidly? It’s a fascinating question with no simple answer.
                First, we must acknowledge that what seems rapid is actually a culmination, the sudden burst of light that is the fruit of long faithful work and diligent faithful witness. I do not think that the legislature of the state of South Carolina would have been moved to secure the 2/3 majority needed to remove the flag were it not for the person of Clementa Pinckney. They knew him. He had been their colleague in the house and senate for 18 years. They knew his calm but persistent voice along with his compassionate and embracing heart. And they know how profoundly he will be missed. So they know it’s time for the flag to come down – in honor of their friend and in opposition to the hate and violence that took his life.
                Second, I think change has come so rapidly because Dylann Roof crossed the line. Of course, he crossed the line of violence in the taking of innocent lives. Yet others have died before. Dylann crossed the church line; he violated a sacred southern space. He abused God-breathed hospitality. It was a hospitality that even almost stayed the killer’s hand. “They were so nice to me.”
                The witness of those lives and the testimony of their families continue to change hearts. Many have been astounded at the words of forgiveness spoken when grief was only a few days young. Many question how that could happen and know they could never overcome the anger that understandably dwells within a human heart at such a tremendous loss. They wonder if such rapid grace is a vestige of the racial divide that always placed our Black brothers and sisters in a position of deference.
                For me, it is a vestige of our racial divide, but one less insidious. It is a reminder to me of the power of faith known and lived by our Black brothers and sisters. When you live in a world that treats you as second-class and unworthy then come into God’s house where the message of grace is preached with power, you absorb that grace in amazing ways. Not to enable deference to power but in order to be a witness to power – a witness to the heart of Christian faith.
                Forgiveness doesn’t negate justice; it enables it. It breaks the cycle of violence. It sees the guilty one with God’s eyes. They are the same eyes that see us as just as guilty and just as much in need of grace. Yes - we still pay the human price for our sins. Yes - we are still accountable for our actions. Atonement is still the pathway toward reconciliation, but forgiveness becomes the first step; not the last.  
                I discovered recently that one of my ministerial friends knew Rev. Pinckney. They shared a CPE (Clinical Pastoral Education) experience together. She says he was in life everything everyone is saying about him in death. A man who walked the talk. I know that must be true. His people are living proof. They are the ultimate testimony to the effectiveness of pastoral leadership; a witness every pastor would covet.
                 It remains to be seen what lasting legacy will come from this terrible loss of life. Will the flag actually come down? But more important still, will we begin the hard journey of acknowledging our past and claiming our future across the divisions that still own us?
                Our president said it eloquently: “God helped us to see where we were blind.” Let us not be blind to the heritage of history. Slavery was evil. That truth is self-evident today. Yet my ancestors who owned slaves were not evil people. They were good people who were blind to the evil that existed all around them.  In like manner, let us not be blind to the truth of our reality. Racism is evil and it exists all around us, even if we who are not its targets can just as easily be blind to its power.

                Let’s move beyond taking down a flag. Let’s work together to bring life out of death – abundant life for all God’s children. 

Friday, November 8, 2013

Seneca Presbyterian Church is doing something new and very meaningful this weekend. We are honoring Veterans. Not just by saying a quick thank you and moving on with the business of the day.  Our Outreach Committee has planned a program and reception. It will take place in our Pastors’ Hall on Sunday afternoon (November 10) at 3:00 p.m. Charlie – a member of our congregation who is president of Patriot’s Hall, a war museum dedicated to veterans of Oconee County – will be our speaker.
            It’s natural that a congregation of primarily retirees would take time to recognize this day and say thank you. But I also find it surprising. You see, in over thirty years of ministry, this reception marks the first time a church I was currently serving marked the day. It is long overdue.
            I invited Charlie to join our Wednesday evening Bible study group. That’s the group that helps me live into the text and sermon for the following Sunday. Charlie brought Del with him – another member of Seneca Presbyterian and Marine Corps vet with 20 years of service. I felt honored to be in their presence and to listen to stories of their active duty service along with their ongoing service to veterans in our area.
            I needed their help this week. I had discovered a fascinating and also disturbing topic: moral injury. It is defined as “perpetrating, failing to prevent, or being witness to acts that transgress deeply held moral beliefs and expectations.” (See “Soul Repair” in Presbyterians Today, Vol. 103, No. 8, September 2013) I needed to hear from Charlie – and thanks to Charlie, also Del – that the topic was real and open for discussion.
            Moral injury happens when we find ourselves caught up in a situation where we are forced to act in ways contrary to our moral code of conduct. We may do the right thing in the right moment – like killing the enemy in the moment of combat. But when we no longer live and function in that moment; when other moral codes take over; when a soldier comes home from war, the memory of those actions can create a living hell - even when the action was entirely justified and even when it was the “right thing to do.”
            It seems, some would say, that human beings have an instinct against killing. That’s hard to believe, isn’t it? When we think of Columbine and Virginia Tech and Newtown, we wonder if the opposite comes closer to the truth. Yet it has been said that we have to be taught to hate. What if we have to be taught to kill? And when we must kill, it leaves a giant moral injury in the human soul. Perhaps that is something of why our grandfathers and fathers and brothers and sisters don’t talk about war.
            But we cannot heal the deep wounds of the soul without talking about them. The Church can offer a unique and powerful place for that talking. For in the Church we also talk about forgiveness and about a God who loved us so much that He took on the sin of the world in order to redeem it. 
            We’ll talk about that this Sunday at Seneca Presbyterian Church. Join us if you can. 

Friday, June 29, 2012

Making It to the Party

Rembrandt: Return of the Prodigal Son
I cannot speak for my congregation, but the longer I spend with the Lord's Prayer, the more I am discovering an interesting and challenging surprise. These are not easy words! Yes - these are sacred words for they come to us directly from Jesus. Yes - these are holy words for they guide us on a spiritual path that is set by the one we call Lord. But they are not easy.

We teach them to our children - as we should - but as we do, we need to remember that this is not "Now I lay me down to sleep..." We are praying for God's kingdom to come on earth as it is in heaven - and that is (forgive me for saying it) just a wee bit radical. Stop and consider the pronouns. There's not a single "I, me, or my" anywhere.



  • Not "my Father" but "our Father."
  • Not "my daily bread" but "our daily bread."
  • Not "forgive me my sins" but "forgive us."

And then we get one of the most radical statements of all. Whether you use the word debt, trespass, or sin, the prayer doesn't let us off too quickly. Forgive us our debts as WE FORGIVE our debtors. And in case we don't quite understand, Matthew is quick to add a comment by Jesus just after he teaches us the Lord's Prayer: For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. The Gospel of Matthew seems adamant about what appears to be a condition in the forgiveness clause of the Gospel. Check out the parable in Mathew 18: 23-35 - if you dare! 
 It would seem that Jesus is insisting that his path of discipleship is inherently, inevitably, and unavoidably communal. 
So - as we approach the amazingly challenging statement on forgiveness this Sunday, I want to take a small bypass through a story that speaks a bit more softly, yet so very powerfully. We will seek to understand the path of forgiveness with the lens of the Prodigal Son - and his Elder Brother. Take a moment to remember this so very familiar story in Luke chapter 15. While you're at it, read the entire chapter. And then consider: 
Are you a Prodigal Son or an Elder Brother? 
See you Sunday!

Friday, February 24, 2012

Reflections Post Ash Wednesday

On Wednesday evening at Seneca Presbyterian Church, we gathered in silence for a traditional Ash Wednesday service of worship. As I prepared for the service and the season it begins, I was taken by the delicate balance found in this thing we call sin. Lent is intended to be the season of self-examination. We ponder the darkness of our lives - our failures, our sorrows, our short-comings - anything that keeps us apart from God. Such a discipline is a good thing. We need to take an honest look at ourselves every now and then! We keep the discipline of Lent in anticipation of the glorious Good News of Easter when we shall experience once again the grace of God's amazing love that is more powerful than all our sins, our failures, our sorrows, and our short-comings. Thanks be to God!

But I wonder if there is more to the balancing act? When we are honest with ourselves and see the wrong of our lives, we cry out for grace and trust that God will bypass judgment. But when we are the ones who have been wronged, we cry for accountability. Heading too quickly to forgive denies the justice of judgment that we feel we deserve. It is a delicate balancing act, isn't it? For grace to be real, should we not also be accountable for the wrong we have done?

It would seem that we do need this season called Lent. For we need to be more than sorry for the wrong we have done. We need to repent - to turn around, to change, and to be made new. For when we are willing to be both judged and forgiven, the shortcomings of our lives can be redeemed – which is more than simple forgiveness. In the end, even the sin of our lives can become more powerfully good. For sin is whatever keeps us from knowing – in our head, our heart, our gut, and our spirit – that God is truly Lord of all.